What follows is a response I wrote to a Catholic priest who presided at a wedding mass I recently attended. The names have been deleted to protect all parties. While the mass was a traditional Latin Rite mass, that was not the issue. The issue was the homily, in which he openly insulted Protestant Eucharistic practices and implied that all weddings outside the Catholic church were, in some sense, illegitimate. I admit this is more for my own catharsis than anything – I had a great deal of rage initially, for which I have asked forgiveness – but I thought some of you might find it interesting. My hope is that this embodies ecumenism at its best – dialogue that can bear fruit because it engages with another’s tradition out of deep respect and extensive study. Enjoy:
Rev. _____,
A short while ago, I attended the _______ nuptial Mass which you presided over. I should tell you I am not close to either family; I came with my girlfriend who was a high school friend of the groom. I am writing you because I must take issue with some things you said in your homily. I apologize for the delay, but I needed some time to get my thoughts in order and ensure I was writing with the correct intentions. Your comments regarding the non-Catholic celebration of the Eucharist, as well as your more general comments about wedding rituals, both hurt and offended me.
I doubt there were many people who caught your off-hand remarks about the Eucharist. With the exception of my girlfriend, I do not believe any of the other Protestants in the audience understood what you were saying. I, however, did, and found them profoundly inappropriate. I recognize that Catholics and Protestants have different sacramental theologies (and of course, there is a great divergence within Protestant communities), but I think this is something to lament rather than make light of. As I recall, you asserted, with a smirk, that Holy Eucharist was not just a “symbol” or a “metaphor,” and I believe you also used the phrase “real presence.” I actually agree with all of that. I have no problem with transubstantiation. I have spent a great deal of time, in my young pastorate, trying to teach my congregation to have more reverence for the sacrament. This is part of a wider movement within my denomination to work towards a more frequent celebration of Communion, a change for which I am greatly hopeful.
But, to get back to my point, what purpose does it serve to mock other traditions? Do you really believe there were Catholics there who thought the presence of Christ in the elements was only symbolic? To put it succinctly, it struck me as a cheap shot. I also took it personally, because I hold a great deal of respect for the Catholic tradition, particularly in worship and theology. I grew up in a Southern Baptist-dominated area of North Carolina, where all kinds of horrific stereotypes about Catholic persist. I am very grateful that I had teachers and friends that helped me to appreciate the beauty of the Catholic faith, and this is a lesson I try to instill in my parishioners.
Furthermore, it seems disingenuous to mock Protestant practices when Catholic teaching has at least a modicum of respect for them. Vatican II’s decree on Ecumenism states,
“Our separated brothers and sisters also carry out many liturgical actions of the Christian religion. In ways that vary according to the condition of each church or community, these liturgical actions most certainly can truly engender a life of grace, and, one must say, are capable of giving access to that communion which is salvation.” (503, “Decree on Ecumenism,” in Vatican Council II: The Basic Sixteen Documents. Northport: Costello Publishing Company 2007.)
I take this to mean that, despite our substantial differences, Roman Catholics believe the sacramental rites of other Christian communities can and may, through the Spirit, convey some measure of grace. If this is the case, I believe it is not too much to hope that our practices be respected.
Thus, I did not anticipate the traditions of my own church to be publicly mocked at a Catholic mass. It strikes me as particularly egregious to do this at an occasion where there are likely to be non-Catholics. In a few months I will be marrying two dear friends of mine, one of whom is Catholic and the other of which is Baptist. I do not believe it will be appropriate to the occasion or to the glory of God to make light of either tradition. I expect the same courtesy from clergy colleagues, especially in public.
I was also taken aback by your general comments about marriage. I confess, I was nodding my head as you went on about people getting married “skydiving, scuba diving,” and the like. I too believe that a marriage is a holy occasion which is a most appropriate for a church. For anyone professing the Christian faith, if their marriage is indeed to be a means of grace, a union which is worthy to be compared to Christ and his Church, it should take place in a church proper. Fine. Excellent. But why go on to say that everyone else – the skydivers, scuba divers, beachgoers, and dare I say Protestants?! – are only “pretending” to be married?
Again, this serves no purpose. It comes across as cynical mockery, whatever truth there may be to the statement. I was particularly grieved for some other young people who were there, several of whom were born into Christian families (two of them were baptized Catholics who had fallen away) but no longer identified themselves as such. This was the statement that most perked their ears and turned them off in a service where they already felt alienated. Christianity has, as I’m sure you know, in almost all quarters gained a reputation for being judgmental, narrow-minded, and arrogant. Such comments only reinforce these unfortunate biases. What Vatican II said about ecumenical dialogue should ring true for both clergy and laity on all occasions when we gather for worship:
“…catholic theologians, standing fast by the teaching of the church yet searching together with separated brothers and sisters into the divine mysteries, should do so with love for the truth, with charity, and with humility.” (511, “Decree On Ecumenism”)
The above quote applies equally to the aforementioned comments about Eucharist. Rev. _____, what deeply hurts me about all of this is that I went to that service excited and interested to experience a Latin Rite mass. My last year in seminary, I gained a profound appreciation for and interest in the Catholic Church when I took a course on the theology of Joseph Ratzinger/Pope Benedict XVI. The professor, Dr. Geoffrey Wainwright, is a Methodist pastor and theologian who has been involved in many of the dialogues between our churches (such as the discussions leading up to the joint Catholic/Lutheran/Methodist declaration on the Doctrine of Justification). He became acquainted with the Holy Father when then-Cardinal Ratzinger was prefect of the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith. Dr. Wainwright has a deep respect for His Holiness, both as a theologian and as a successor to Peter, a respect that he ingrained in all of us who took the course.
While searching for your address on the internet, I stumbled across a piece you wrote on the Latin Rite. Near the end, you recommended reading one of the Holy Father’s earlier works, The Spirit of the Liturgy. This was one of the monographs we were assigned for the course. Chapter four contains this beautiful reflection on the Eucharist:
“The Lord has definitively drawn this piece of matter to himself. It does not contain just a matter-of-fact kind of gift. No, the Lord himself is present, the Indivisible One, the risen Lord, with Flesh and Blood, with Body and Soul, with Divinity and Humanity. The whole Christ is there.” (88, The Spirit of the Liturgy, Joseph Cardinal Ratzinger. San Francisco: Ignatius Press 2000)
Rev. _____, I do not presume to lecture you on Catholic faith or practice. Whatever knowledge I have of your tradition is limited at best. I do, however, feel confident to share that I believe that in a mass, where the Lord is truly and wholly present, the comments I have mentioned above were inappropriate. That being said, I’m sure that I have made more offensive comments while presiding at a service. And, from what I saw, you seem like a skilled leader of worship, celebrant, and preacher. I only make the above points because your comments were incongruous with what I took to be Catholic positions regarding “separated brothers” such as myself, and because I took exception to them as a pastor.
Please forgive me if my comments here lack humility or charity; I have asked the Lord for forgiveness already, for my pride, inattention, and malicious thoughts both during the mass and after. I am not proud of my initial reaction to your comments. I hope that the issues I am bringing to your attention only amount to a slip of the tongue or momentary forgetfulness. I further hope that this letter will be received in the spirit that is intended: “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” (Proverbs 27:17) As a Christian and a fellow shepherd in the Lord’s fields, I felt duty-bound to make my feelings known to you. I thank you for your service in the Church, for your faithful following of Christ’s call, and for the time and attention given to my grievances. May God bless you and your ministry at St. _______.
Grace and Peace,
Rev. Mack
Pastor
West ____ United Methodist Church
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